And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

(Ephesians 4:32 King James Version)

Have you ever been hurt by a believer? Possibly, they made rather hurtful and inconsiderate comments and you still wonder why anyone would be so thoughtless. Maybe once you saw the verse above, you felt you would do the righteous thing and send them this article (after all, it does not seem he has this verse in his bible or he somehow skipped it). You have not even finished reading this but you are very certain though that he needs to read this and maybe you’re probably saying “Holy Spirit better remind him how unkind they were back then.” Me thinks though that we all need this verse. If only you have been a bit more forgiving, you might not have remembered the wrong he did especially as he was having a rough day when he snapped at you. Maybe she just lost her favorite earrings that morning and did not feel she would look good enough for dinner, so she canceled it. Whatever the case, if we were all a bit more tenderhearted, things would be different. I could not help checking out this verse using the Message Bible to get some more insight on this verse:

Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.

(Ephesians 4:32 The Message)


We need to be a bit more sensitive when dealing with ourselves as believers. It is not enough to go about saying and doing whatever you like without considering those around you. Even when we are supposed to say the truth, we cannot just go about saying things not caring its effect on people. The ultimate goal in all we do should be to glorify God and after that, our words and life should cause men to desire to know Him not despise Him. Paul comes out to say we should speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). I personally think that some of the “true things” I’ve heard people say were spoken more out of anger, jealousy, bitterness, or some other malicious motive than they were said in love. When we are more sensitive as believers, I believe some of the open chastisement we see will be done in secret.


I am not of course saying “sensitivity” should replace obedience to the voice of the Holy Spirit. When God gives you an explicit instructions on how He wants you to carry out a task, obey everything He says even if it may offend men. However, in our relating to people on daily basis, I do strongly believe that we need to start being more sensitive. Too many arguments arise because neither party is sensitive to the other. Let us not forget that real love does not seek its own (1st Cor. 13:5). We would go a long way in living at peace with one another when everyone is bit more sensitive to his neighbor.


This article was written by Ikenna Agbai. You can follow him on Twitter @Agbai.

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