My dearest Tomi,
I hope you’ve been great. Been a while since I last saw you. Your replies have been very heart warming. You certainly are right, relationships are definitely overrated and the virtue of patience, down played. I think most of it stems from the false romantic fairy tales Hollywood keeps selling to us. The situation is further compounded as people emotionally launch out prematurely. I believe a degree of emotional independence (among other things) has to be achieved before one should venture into such commitment. Albeit, we are all learning to live.
In your last letter, you detailed a rather unfortunate occurrence that got you disappointed and angry. A very heart-wrenching news. It made rounds on the internet and his actions were absolutely inexcusable. To think that he would blatantly stand in front of his congregation and say it was none of their business was just out rightly irresponsible. Silence of his infidelity would have been preferred or golden even. This pastor’s extra-marital affair is saddening.
However, here’s what I need you to consider, you shouldn’t be discouraged about this mishap, because Jesus gave you salvation not the pastor. We learn from them, we submit to them, we acknowledge and honour them, but just as Paul told the people of Lystra, when they tried to exalt him as a god, they are men of ‘like passions’. Meaning, they are plagued with the very [...]
My dearest Tomi,
I’m very delighted to hear that my last letter is beginning to help redefine your perspective on love. I trust that you’ve been good. I thought I should share some thoughts on what our evangelicals constantly harp about. Some preachers, it seems, over emphasise it, and others under emphasise it. How come we keep threatening people with fervent heat when Jesus kept telling us that ‘your sins are forgiven’?
Ever wondered what sin really is? Is it just not drinking? Or not fornicating? Or not stealing? Or not killing? Or not lying? Is it any of these? All of these? None of these? Could ‘morality’ be all there is to living rightly? The main words used in Hebrew that have been translated to mean sin are majorly ‘chata’, ‘pesha’ and ‘avon’. The Greek word translated to mean sin in the New Testament is ‘hamartia’. The Hebrew and Greek words ‘chata’ and ‘hamartia’ respectively, connote the same meaning, which is to ‘miss the mark’. It conveys the picture of an archer who shoots an arrow but doesn’t get the bullseye. While, the Hebrew words ‘pesha’ and ‘avon’ basically infer a trespassing. Doing what you’re not supposed to be doing or being where you’re not supposed to be.
My dearest Tomi,
I imagine you must have been anticipating this letter. I hope you didn’t have to lose any sleep over it though, I trust you to take good care of your body. This is the only physical asset God has entrusted in your care which gives you license to carry out your assignment on earth. You of all people should understand its gravity.
I’m impressed with the homework you did on the subject of love. You did well to mention some of its qualities: love is kind, patient, long suffering, takes no record of wrong etc. However, what I want you to understand is Love Himself before you mention His qualities. Here’s what I mean, it’s only when someone has identified the gate to our house before they can start mentioning its qualities like it being black and having vertical bars. The qualities only serve to substantiate and verify Love’s identity, but if you miss who Love is and start searching/finding these qualities somewhere else, you’ll more than likely end up with a copy cat.
Firstly, I need you to understand and remember who we are and whose we are: we are kingdom and we are God’s children. Every believer of this Truth most first and foremost realize that God is the source of all meaning and purpose; He gives relevance to all that we see and know. I need [...]
I hope you’ve been great. I’ve really missed your company. You have no idea how much I want to see you again. You mentioned your frustrations at home in your last email, I know how pesky parents can get sometimes, but it’s still part of the growing process I must confess, believe it or not, you’ll miss it later. So enjoy it while you still can. I’ve written to share with you a virtue that I consider golden. It was prompted in a conversation that sadly, I don’t remember having.
I once stumbled across a question where someone inquired if I would prefer to marry a full fledged ‘church-girl’ or a once-upon-a-time ‘bad girl’, who is now ‘good’, so she could treat me nicely. Although, the reason for this question still remains unclear, here is a better statement of my response:
It is said that ‘church-girls’ don’t know much, hence the idea that the once-upon-a-time ‘bad girls’ are better, because they’ve had exposure. While that may be true in certain respects, that doesn’t bother me one bit. What I find golden in an individual is teach-ability. Not the ‘church-girl’ or the ‘bad girl’. I care nothing for such statuses. I even wonder, who on earth ever thought up such belittling titles. It’s teach-ability that changes a stark village girl into a modern intellectual in the space of 5-10 years. The bridge between not knowing and knowing is simply that virtue. I am constantly [...]