One man, One woman, One house
The first part of the movie is in the before, where neither of them seems to have trust issues, because they share everything about their lives. Here Donald calls marriage exciting and Omolara says “Ọkọ lo lorí aya” [The husband is the head of the wife]. However, in a twist of fate, the trust between them wavers. On one occasion Donald is shocked to find that Omolara is hiding her money from him when he is in need, and invoking an interesting conversation about the head of the house. Now we are in the after. Soon, what started off as sweet love becomes the war of the roses.
A lot of people, especially women might disagree with the idea of the husband being the head of the house. I mean, this is the 21st century, women hold positions that are equally as challenging as men’s outside the home. Therefore, it should be a 50-50 affair shouldn’t it? While I hate to take sides, I do believe that the husband is the head over the wife. “I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.” 1 Cor 11:3. Of course I am not saying that men should abuse this authority or that women become figurines in the home, rather, I am saying that the husband deserves the respect due him as the head of the home. However, we see Omolara challenge Donald’s authority and pull out the 50-50 card a couple of times.
Now, the prayer of Jabez is a hit with many people, but Omolara’s prayer is closely following. “Oluwa gbé mì ga ju Ọkọ mì lo” [God lift me above my husband]. I could not believe the prayer when I watched the movie; and Donald’s response to the prayer? Perfect!
The two continue to throw jabs at each other. Omolara pours laxative in Donald’s tea, and he strikes back with werepe leaves (devil seeds that make you itch) in her clothes; Each of them trying to outdo the other, but really just shooting themselves in the foot. The battle line is drawn, and their policy is retaliation before confrontation.
“If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” Mark 3:25. Donald and Omolara find interesting ways to communicate besides speaking. The paper and pen alarm clock costs Donald a contract, and slowly each party starts to feel the impact of their conflict. Third-party influence places the icing on the cake. Donald and Omolara take advice from their “friends”, but this advice seems to be exactly what causes their misunderstanding in the first place.
The moral of the story; Trust, communication and knowing how to filter advice, or rather, not washing your dirty linens in public, are key ingredients in any relationship. Modupe Temi is a fantastic movie, and if you have not seen it… Go see it!!!
By Tobi Ibukun Jaiyeola