I typically embrace challenges, especially when people tell me I can’t do something worthwhile. These past few weeks have brought new adventures for me. New job with a new apartment in the big city and you think “yaaay” till the first couple of bills come in and you wonder “freedom ke?” After getting through some paper work, I remember sitting on the floor in my yet-to-be-furnished apartment and feeling somewhat defeated. When exactly was I going to enjoy this experience? When was the euphoria from accomplishment going to set in? Then it occurred to me, I would never smell the roses unless I actually went out to smell them.


Too many times we get frustrated about our situations, sometimes rightfully so, but a lot of times we narrow in on just the negative things and downplay the positives. It is no accident that you are experiencing painful times. The scars of the past remind us of where we’ve been and our presence in today is proof that we matter. Be relevant in your today, you have to matter. As I write this, my apartment is still not furnished but I have a roof over my head, I have the choice to eat of I wanted and that is a blessing. And so I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and smell the roses in my life. Do not underestimate the value of the right perception; have a mind that goes beyond your situation.


This is one of my favorite excerpts by spiritual activist and internationally acclaimed author Marianne Williamson, from her book A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”


Every time I read this, I am reminded that I am called to something greater and that no matter what challenges I face now there is a higher call upon my life. So truly who am I not to feel great, talented or gorgeous? All these things are true about us women; we are powerful, we are talented, we are great.


I leave you with one of my favorite bible verses. Zechariah 4:10 “Do not despise these small beginnings, for the LORD rejoices to see the work begin, to see the plumb line in Zerubbabel’s hand.”

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