I have a quote on my wall with these words “Be your own kind of beautiful.” Ordinarily when we think beauty, we think of fashion or some female icon in the spotlight. But neither the Gucci purses nor Calvin Klein jeans, not even the MAC products make you beautiful. Society has it so twisted and we have all these images thrown at us that force us women to become more of what we are not and less of who we are. Have you heard the Basketmouth joke about women being bigger liars than men? Why? Cause we have all these gadgets that we armor ourselves with; sad but true. There’s an artificial brand for almost every body part. Even in Asia they have surgery to make you taller (Goodbye 4inch heels)…ps. it is a very gross procedure.
We women are in the center of all this madness. Sometimes I walk down the street and it’s like daylight porn. You see women both young and old bringing all the goodies out to town and showing off some things that they should have just left at home. I see some women and I wonder if they went shopping in the kiddies section because that dress because the dress didn’t look like it was made in their size. Through some bizarre reasoning we’re made to believe that the more skin you show, the more attractive you become. What kind of man are you trying to attract? I roll my eyes at the guy who says he can’t be with a woman who hasn’t got the curves of Beyoncé, the legs of Tyra, the lips of Angelina Jolie and the list just continues. That sort of man isn’t looking for a wifey, he might as well get a life-size doll. Imagine if men had the power to design their “ideal” women? Just think Stepford wives!
No man has the power to tell you how beautiful you ought to be, or worse still that you aren’t. God is the orchestrator of beauty; He is by every right a world class designer. Beauty wasn’t designed to be fleeting, here today gone tomorrow. God designed beauty to last and so what makes you beautiful isn’t just what’s on the outside. I hate to disappoint you honey, you’re gonna get old someday…yikes wrinkles!! 1 peter 3:3-4 “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” The people with this mindset are the ones that age gracefully and still look amazing over time.
There’s nothing taboo about looking good or wanting to look good. I am in the business of making people look and feel good about themselves. And so I am by no means saying toss out your Prada, Fendi or whathaveyou collection…are you kidding? Those things are expensive. What I’m saying is, don’t let your worth lie in the hands of beauty magazines or products because you’ll be in an endless pursuit, those things are constantly changing. If you feel beautiful on the inside it will reflect on the exterior and soon people will become attracted to your beauty. Besides you want to be with a man who would look at you when all that make-up comes off and still find you stunning.
Cultivate your inner beauty. The clothes don’t make the man; neither does the hair or make-up product. B e your own kind of beautiful.
Sister Act is a weekly column by Ibukun Jaiyeola